Do Desperate Girls Allow Men to be Passive

Why is it that girls don't get what they want out of relationships?
What do girls want?
Are Christian men less likely to marry than non-Christian men?
If men are afraid of failure why don't they get relationship help?
Why do men want to hang out with a girl everyday but they don't want to call it dating and yet they don't want the girl to talk to any other men?
Why are men afraid of defining the relationship?
Why does the "define the relationship" conversation make it or break it for men?
Why is it a turn off to men for a girl to want to know where the relationship might be going?
Is that fair to the girl?
Why is it that a real man isn't scared at all?
Are all the other men just that insecure?
Why do girls let men walk all over them?
Why has the church taught women that that is what they should do?
Is it Biblical that women should be the responder in a relationship?
If that is true why do women seem to be better at nurtering relationships?
Please give me your thoughts?

What do they mean?

When a man pays close attention to a girl what does it mean? For instance a guy that you had a crush on as a child and you know the feelings were mutual (because you have talked about that fact)but you lost contact for twenty years. He turns back up in your life thanks to facebook.com you start having regular contact by email then five hour chats then eight hour phone conversations and then he comes to see you. He says things like "I'm very fond of you, I've been looking for you all these years ect." all of this goes on for a year and a half. What would you girls think?